15 Nov “When you´re always wanting, you never appreciate what you have. That´s when and why you lost it.”
“What´s that mean?”, the writer asks as he leans back in his chair at the cafe.
“The tab”, I reply as I lean forward and pick up my taza, “you always want another coffee–you never take the time to appreciate, to enjoy, to savor, the cup that you currently have. And, you always want another one, even before you are done with your current one, and then I have to keep paying for your coffees–to you, they are just drinks–they don´t matter.”
“I like coffee.”
“I know”, I reply as I take another sip, “but you don´t love coffee–the taste, the warm feeling in your body as you drink it, the smell as it brews, the heat on your hands as you hold it. You just think about what you can get out of it–you don´t… well, you don´t love it. Not at all.”
“I think I´ll have another and think about this”, he replies as he puts his hand in the air.
“Sure”, I reply as I lean back, “but thinking is a means to avoid–you are putting off the real for a fictious future. You won´t change your mind–people are people as they are, they are. It will be the same in 5 minutes or 5 hours. It´s one thing to think about something–to consider the different things that could happen. To consider the consequences to your actions–but you are not thinking with the intent of making a decision–you have already made up your mind and you are avoiding.”
“I´m not avoiding another coffee”, he replies as the waiter sets the cup of coffee on the small table, “I am loving each one.”
“No, you´re not”, I reply as I take a sip from the taza, “you have already moved on to the next one. The coffee means nothing to you–you want coffee, you don´t appreciate coffee. You will want another one after this one–you will never be satisfied if you are looking for coffee to be your answer. You´ll always need another cup. Instead, it´s something to consider, be aware of what you want, and…. let it go. It will be ok if you don´t have another cup of coffee. Think about it this way
I want a coffee–but I´m ok.
In this way, you acknowledge that there is something that you want–but it´s not a need. If, or when, you have the next coffee, you start to understand that you are ok–you give yourself room to appreciate the coffee, not desire it.”
“Are you still talking about coffee?”
“I never talk about coffee.”
“What are you talking about?”
“Don´t worry about it”, I reply as I lean back in the chair and turn my head to look out the window, “yeah, don´t worry about it. Appreciate things. Appreciate what you have. Be aware of what you have. I have a house with my wife and we have a cat and a spacejet, a daughter. I live in content, not contempt.”
“That sounds like a nice setup that you got there”, the writer replies as he turns his head to me.
“It´s not all it sounds like–but it´s what I have”, I reply as I lean forward and set the taza down, “it´s what I am. What I have is what I am.”
“Can we go back to talking about coffee?”
“Sure”, I reply as I turn my head back out the window, “I really like a dark roast with a whole milk, or half-and-half creamer, and a packet of natural sugar.”
“I like mine the same.”
“They all do”, I reply as I lean back in my chair and chuckle.