19 Aug I Turn On My Videotelepathy Device; A New Message On SETI; it says, please stop contacting me, we thought you would get the point; so where do we go from here, I think; the #palomitas #burnAF in the kitchen. #progressAF (1.2k)
“Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it’s yours.”
15 Ways to Empower Others in 15 Minutes
“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: We did it ourselves.” – Lao Tzu
Empowering others happens as you develop into a better leader and friend. After empowering YOU, the key is using that courage and sensibility to lead and change lives. Building a community, a tribe, a plan for world domination—all of that big, heavy world-changing stuff begins with the ability to make other people do positive things they already want to do. Sounds crazy, right? Strong female leaders such as Michelle Obama and Aung San Suu Kyi are able to mobilize entire communities and countries, with just words and actions, and they do it with intellect and style. Here are 15 fifteen-minute ways to empower others:
The universe is made up of little interactions that stimulate the energy and growth within a community. Whether that community is New York or Reykjavik, friends and strangers alike are influenced by a simple smile.
[Related: 5 Ways to Get Noticed at Work]
2. Be positive.
Be conscious about your words and actions so that you can be a positive force, rather than fueling the fire. Your energy will offer insights to any discussion and invite others to see things from your perspective.
I’m a firm believer in saying what you want, when you want to—especially if what I say will make someone feel great. Whether it’s acknowledging someone’s generosity or their new shoes, compliments generate conversation and allow others to open up to you.
4. Challenge others.
My friends often impress me with their talents; however, many of us are plagued by extreme self-doubt or paralysis-by-analysis. I try to help by brainstorming ways in which my friends can take their skills to the next level, either to make money or gain followers. It’s rewarding, and I find that we challenge each other to be better every day.
5. Encourage creation.
From themed movie nights (like rom-com marathons) to cooking classes to photo-shoots, doing things with friends is an excellent way to foster creativity and refine skills. MAJOR plus: there’s nothing like taking great photos to post on Instagram or making new friends through collaboration.
6. Do things together.
Little things matter, like grabbing breakfast or lunch with coworkers or calling a friend who’s having a bad day. Smaller groups encourage sharing and empower the shyer ones to speak up.
7. Share ideas.
Budding entrepreneurs and artists can relate because sharing ideas is crucial to the work, but everyone thrives from idea generation because it leads to incredible bonds and unforeseen adventures. Sharing ideas can take 3 minutes or it can turn into hour-long conversations over caffeinated beverages… so share away.
Education is powerful and necessary, but not left to just certified teachers.
10 Tips On How To Lick A Girl (NSFW)
So I have to think about how to tell this new guy I’m seeing that his oral sex skills could do with a reboot. I don’t think any of his ex girlfriends have had “The Conversation” with him.
noun: Mahayana Buddhism
one of the two major traditions of Buddhism, now practiced in a variety of forms especially in China, Tibet, Japan, and Korea. The tradition emerged around the 1st century AD and is typically concerned with altruistically oriented spiritual practice as embodied in the ideal of the bodhisattva.
from Sanskrit, from mahā ‘great’ + yāna ‘vehicle.’
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“So you actually give a shit about people?”, HR asks me across the kitchen table.
“Yeah”, I reply as I reach for the #brocoliAF, “more or less, I suppose. Can you pass me the #digitalturkeyAF?”
HR reaches over to the plate; knocking over the pitcher, the jamaica tips over and spills on the wooden #mesaAF; I laugh; at this point, it’s all I can do–after the day I had today, Yo.
“Don’t explain your philosophy. Embody it.”
Can You Handle The Truth?
Courage is a precious commodity in psychoanalysis. Psychological growth cannot happen with out it. Both analyst and patient must draw upon it. But courage for what, you ask? Courage to face the truth. This is the guiding principle, the North Star of psychoanalysis. And it is an essential aspect of any kind of positive change.
Why does it take courage to face the truth?
It takes courage to face the truth because the truth comes will all sorts of anxieties, disappointments, and responsibilities which we would rather avoid. The truth can be painful. It can be challenging. It means we must pull our heads out of the sand and do something to help ourselves—wake up, get up, stand up, pony up, man up, grow up.
What are some of the truths we resist facing?
In an ordinary week of work as a psychoanalyst, here are some of the truths that my patients and I must muster the courage to face (in no particular order of difficulty or importance):
While we did not entirely create our problems, we are responsible for dealing with them.
We are stuck with our families, if not on the outside then at least on the inside.
Our parents did something right.
Holding onto grievances doesn’t do anybody any good.
There is only so much we can do; we have certain limitations which we cannot overcome.
The future is not pre-determined; we can do better.
We make mistakes, hurt other people, have ugly, aggressive, selfish, greedy impulses.
Everyone will die.
Now, if you have trouble accepting some of these as truths, feel free to take them with a grain of salt or throw them out altogether. Or, instead, maybe stop and think why you might want to dismiss them. Perhaps what I’m saying is worth considering. Maybe it takes courage to face some of these truths about life. And maybe your life would be different—even better—if you could.